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It seems it’s written, but we can’t read between the line…

We sometimes think we have everything figured out, don’t we? Life has a funny way of throwing a “curve ball” at us from time to time. How do you deal with it? Do you deal with it at all? It’s easier to run and hide, than to stand and fight.

Not only do we all think we have everything figured out, we also try to force things, we try to change things that sometimes are not our business to change, and we also have a habit of trying to make the square peg fit into the round hole. What’s going to happen, is going to happen. What’s meant to be, is going to be.

So let’s worry about ourselves and how we are going to make our lives better, teaching ourselves how to deal with whatever comes our way, and accept the things that are meant to be.

“Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human.” – Albert Ellis

Now Playing: “Soulmates Never Die” by Placebo

When you lose something you can’t replace…

We all often take for granted the little things in life. For whatever reason, we just allow ourselves to get overwhelmed with things that really don’t matter, or even pick on the negative in certains things, and even people.

They say you don’t know what you got ’til it’s gone. That truly is the case. Often things have to be taken away, even if for a little while, to make us realize that we should count our blessings, and be happy with what we have.

So learn to appreciate the little things in life. Learn to see the wonder and greatness in things around you. Realize that the smallest thing in someone you love or care about really isn’t small at all…

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” – Robert Brault

Now Playing: “Fix You” by Coldplay

Put all your worries behind…

As you read this, I will be on my way back home to Chicago. My time here on the island of Puerto Rico I would say was a productive one. I am however still on my journey, and I believe that this is only the beginning.

I fought it at first. I hated it at times, but as time went on, one of the things I began to realize that yes, things do happen for a reason, and sometimes you need a situation, or something to happen to you in your life that “wakes you up”.

So, with lessons learned, and the tools needed to continue on, I return. I return to do things the right way. Changed, renewed, and with a new desire to be a better son, friend, father, and husband.

May good fortune and blessings fall upon all of my friends, family, and all of you and your families, so we can continue on our paths, and all become better human beings…

“The part always has a tendency to reunite with its whole in order to escape from its imperfection.” – Leonardo da Vinci

Now Playing: “Come On Home” by Indigenous

Back to that same old place…

For those who regularly read the postings here at The Ballad of Joey Flowers, first of all, I thank you. I know you all pretty much know my situation. For those who are new, first of all welcome, and here’s my situation in a nutshell.

The Ballad of Joey Flowers was started as a way for me to deal with things that were going on in my life back in Chicago. I was unemployed, was suffering through depression, anxiety, OCD, and other personal issues. On top of that, my relationship took a dive. She needed space, which I reluctantly gave her, but had nowhere to go. So, I ended up with my family on the island of Puerto Rico.

I went through all the textbook emotions and feelings, finally accepting life as it was, or was going to be. Another thing I realized after a while was that I needed for things to happen the way they did, so that I could open my eyes and learn. Learn, grow, and change. I was given a second chance to better myself, and become the person I was meant to be.

So, here I am, a better person yes, but still a work in progress. And, my situation has done a complete 180 degrees. The past few weeks have become a period of forgiveness, redemption, and reconciliation. Things seemed to just fall into place, and continue to do so. It’s time for phase two.

That’s right, I’m heading home…

Wherever a man may happen to turn, whatever a man may undertake, he will always end up by returning to that path which nature has marked out for him.” – Unknown Author

Now Playing: “Sweet Home Chicago” by Buddy Guy

But I’m hangin’ tough…Day, by, day, by, day, by, day.

You’ve heard, as well as I have, people say “one day at a time”. Great saying. It’s easier to deal with things that are troubling us, or in our way, if we just chip away at it, taking it one step at a time. It’s better to take things slow, and deal with things one piece at a time, finding the solution to the puzzle.

But most of us allow ourselves to get overwhelmed with eveything at once, and then we just look at it and say that we can’t handle it. We use it as an excuse, and take the cowards way out. Is that really what you want to be known for, being a coward, a quitter?

Practice makes perfect, so right now is the moment to do what you need to in order to overcome anything thrown your way, and for you to have what you want out of life. Let’s not be cowards. Let’s hang in there and take it one step, piece, and day at a time.

“Worry never accomplishes anything. When you have a problem, it is best to concentrate on the solution to that problem, not the problem itself.” – Thomas D. Willhite

Now Playing: “God Hates A Coward” by Tomahawk

You won’t break me, no matter how hard you try…

No matter who you are, there have been times where you felt absolutely defeated. I have. No one is immune to some sort of misfortune or obstacle in life. But we usually let the things get to us, and allow it to do whatever damage it can cause.

We need to keep in mind that we don’t have to take it. Sure, whatever happens happens, but you have the choice to either use it to make you, or let it break you. It can’t stop you from advancing or stopping you from a better life if you let it.

Know that if you are still breathing, you still have it in you to fight. You still have what you need within to become bulletproof in a sense. Let all of the obstacles come. You are better than that. You are stronger than that. Take control. Use your power. Don’t give it away.

“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Now Playing “Bulletproof” by Five Finger Death Punch